Choosing Appropriate Swinging Partners

Finding the right people to befriend as playmates takes a certain amount of time and commitment.  We all hope that the individual who have completed their profiles have been truthful with their presentation and photographs and that they genuinely are who they say they are.  Nobody wants to waste time emailing a profile only to find out down the line that it was a totally inappropriate match.  Herewith 10 tips and guidelines to make your experience a fun and fulfilling one!

• Don't judge a book by the cover; you owe it to yourself and the potential swinging friends to at least meet them.

• Reply, Reply, Reply - Most people think that placing an adult contact advert amongst other people’s swinger adverts is enough and then sit back and wait for the flood of replies. Do this at your peril, remember that by actively replying to other people’s swinger adverts you are CHOOSING who you might want to meet, and leaving the ones you don't.

• If possible try to agree with the prospective adult friends that you will not be actually having sex on the first get together.

• Swingers in SA can be quite shy people, so don't make your decision based on one meeting unless it is a total disaster, try and get to know them with a second meeting.

• Choosing friends for fun is easier in a neutral environment, we have found that a semi-quiet pub somewhere between both parties homes is good, but don't forget that if it's too quiet then the whole pub will probably be listening to your swinging stories long before you realize the deafening silence around you!

• Make sure you have similar desires long before meeting in the flesh, there is absolutely no point in building up a swinging friendship over a number of days, weeks or months if you suddenly find out that the other party isn't into the same things as you sexually.

• Don't rule out meeting swingers who are younger/older than yourselves, we have heard of younger couples finding it near impossible to find friends because nobody will take them seriously, likewise older partners have all sorts of experience and tricks up their sleeves that you just can't begin to imagine.

• Make sure that the people you are going to meet are prepared to take safe sex precautions if that is something you believe in (and we hope it is because no amount of fun is worth dying for!), don't ever choose partners for sex who give you any reason to doubt that using condoms could be an issue, make yourself 100% clear on this.

• Try and choose other swingers who have a similar sense of humour to yourselves, believe me this is an underrated tip, if you want the relationship to be a long and fruitful one then this is an absolute must!

• Take your time, don't rush things, all the best things are worth waiting for, anyone who seems to be pushy and wants to cut to the chase straight away is probably not going to be around as a real swinger friend for very long.